Soo any break-up in any circumstance or any amount of time Is still always hard. It is exhausting and emotionally draining and it makes you want to curl up in a ball away from the real world, but I promise its not like this forever! I believe that everyone needs to go through a bit of a hard break up to learn and grow from it and come out a stronger person!
The most important thing, I believe, to help you get over a relationship are the people around you. Keep your friends and family close at this point as they will be your main support system. It is very easy to isolate yourself and push everyone away so you can be alone and evaluate and over-think every single part of your relationship, wrong thing to do!!! You need to get yourself out there and keep yourself occupied in any which way, even by blogging about how you feel!
Next thing is to stay positive! After all, love and affection are just feelings which we can change! Do not think about the "what ifs" or what you could have done differently, whats happened has happened and I strongly believe everything happens for a reason. If you think you could have been better in the relationship, NO! At that point in time, that's how you were, and they should like you regardless, you shouldn't have to change yourself as a person to benefit others.
I have been keeping very positive and thinking about the opportunities in my life, as I am still so young!! I have decided to go to Spain for the summer and work for some life experience, which I wouldn't have necessarily done when I was in a relationship. I just think now, I am my own person and my life is going to go the way I choose, with no-bodies influence or actions reflecting it.
Stay independent !! So basically, stay away from the rebound! You are normally so used to the everyday relationship things such as texting and phone calls, that when you break up, you feel the need to find the affection from elsewhere to cover your own feelings. Some say rebounds are good, but I think rushing into another emotionally attached relationship is a complete no go!!! Its only going to end badly! Let yourself be yourself for once and discover who you are as a person! You shouldn't need someone else's emotions to feel comfortable.
So in conclusion break ups are shit!(excuse my language) But at the end of the day, everyone goes through them and comes out the other side! Time is most definitely a healer! For me, it has been a few weeks and I have probably experienced every emotion possible, from anger to resentment but I|m coming out fine!! Also as weird as it sounds,listen to songs such as:
. Christina Agularia- Can't Hold Us Down
. Destinys Child- Independent Woman
. Beyonce- Run the World
Listening to these kind of songs do actually help hahaha.
So Good Luck and remember your not alone, I'm doing okay :)
MWAH XXXXXXXXX
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